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Category: Erotica/Fetish Erotica/General Nonfiction
Description: An eye-opening sequel to our best-selling expose of the swinging lifestyle. If you - or your partner - is interested in what it takes to enter into the world of swinging then you can't miss this erotic, yet down-to-earth look at someone who has explored just about every facet of the lifestyle.
eBook Publisher: Renaissance E Books/Sizzler,
eBookwise Release Date: January 2012

Available eBook Formats: OEBFF Format (IMP) [219 KB]
Words: 55764
Reading time: 159-223 min.

CHAPTER 1

Invariably when we meet other couples in the lifestyle, during the course of the conversation, the same question comes up; "How did you two get into this?" In 90 per cent of the cases the reply is roughly the same: it was the husband who suggested they try it. Now why is that? Are that many men unhappy with the state of the sexual bliss of the marriage? I might add that many of the wives of said couples are stone cold foxes, Can't these men be happy with the gorgeous wives they have at home? The answer to this latter question is an unequivocal NO: It is our old friend monogamy raising its ugly head again.

The scenarios are usually the same, The husband growing bored with the monogamous sex in the marriage is looking for either something to spice up the relationship or a legal way of having sex with other women, Somehow he finds out about the swinging lifestyle (not hard to do these days), He then goes to his wife and suggests they try it out, The husband's fantasy is that all he has to do is sell the wife on this idea and he has a free pass to all the pussy he can handle, At first the wife has to be sold on the idea, but she finally relents with an "I'll try it" attitude, Some wives even give in with the rationale that it is "try this or" their husband will be cheating behind her back, The end result is that the husband walks away proud of himself on what a great sales job he has done, He's got it made, It's all smooth sailing from now on, The poor bastard, He has no idea who got the best end of the bargain on that sale, He is about to find out who is really going to be in charge of his new choice in lifestyles ... and it will be quite a shock to his system.

The reality is that the woman having to be sold on the swinging lifestyle is analogous to convincing a teenager that you want to do away with their curfew, In most cases the woman does not know it yet, but she is the one that is going to get a free pass, A free pass to expand her sexuality and world into dimensions she could only have dreamed of in her wildest fantasies, Sure, the man will get a lot of gratuitous sex, She will gain a whole second life, Another existence, An existence in which women run the show, It may be a man's fantasy, but it is definitely a woman's reality.

This is the first reality check for the man, He must face the fact that as his wife gets increasingly comfortable in the lifestyle, she will quickly realize that she has entered the perfect world to allow her to switch into her evil twin's sexual persona with absolutely no downside to the switch, Actually, it's mostly upsides, Any hidden sexual fantasies she has harbored, including those she may not have shared with her husband, can now be realized, She now has a safe venue to act them all out, A venue in which she is encouraged to act them out, The dressing like a slut that she would never do in her normal life, She can do this freely in the lifestyle and actually be complimented for how hot she looks, Her hidden desire to go out and be a total slut, She can do that too, and be complimented on her behavior, For the average husband who has been more focused on his sexual fantasies than his wife's, it can come as quite a shock the first time he sees his prim and proper wife on her knees giving a total stranger she has just met a blow job, It is a fact of life that even in some long term marriages, many wives have simply not brought up their fantasies, Especially the darker fantasies that they are afraid might shock their husband, All of that changes in the lifestyle, Imagine the husband's shock when he realizes his wife's fantasy is to be gangbanged, Or pick up a stranger and fuck him, Or have two black men do her at once, In the lifestyle world, any of these fantasies are easily turned into reality, Women can freely have any bad girl persona that they wish to step into and just as easily step out of it much like Superman changing in a phone booth, This is the first reality that can be a pleasant surprise to the woman and the first shock to the system for the husband, The lifestyle opens up a woman and frees her sexuality, There has been many a husband that did not contemplate that side of the formula or even realize what the chemical reaction was going to deliver.

The second reality that men must face is that the lifestyle is a woman's world when it comes to the process of closing the deal, They are our Bait, My wife hates the term, but it is what it is, It's not such a bad thing ladies, Especially when you consider that the Bait runs the show. The reality is that you ladies are the Chairmen, excuse me, Chairwomen of the Board, You have the final veto on deciding if the deal is going to be consummated or not, Not the man, Oh, we men can beg and plea like the dogs that we are, but we know that we are screwed, blued and tattooed without your stamp of approval on the deal, When we fall in lust over that hot little honey we have got to have, the screwing we get, whether figuratively or literally, will depend on the females, (on both sides of the deal) giving their sign off, Such is the power of The Bait, Oh, and guys it gets worse ... much worse.

Don't forget that the hot little number you are so desperate to have is in almost all instances not there alone, She has a husband who coincidentally is probably on his own search for what he views as a hot little number, Getting the picture? Your only hope is that your wife is attracted to the husband of the woman of your desires, and her husband finds yours to be an equally good deal or this whole party is going nowhere, Perhaps in the beginning before she knows what's going on the wife may take a bullet out of obligation to your quest to get laid, But after doing that a couple of times, she will quickly conclude that she's calling the shots, so why should she be the one sacrificing her body so you can get laid? Guys, this is not ladies night at the local martini bar, You are involved in a four way deal in which the two parties who have total veto power over the deal are the ladies, The only power the men have is the power of prayer, Praying that the ladies will okay the deal, I would spend some time dwelling on the male part of this equation but why waste the time? We know what the men want. That would make for a very short chapter now, wouldn't it?

Clearly the women set the tone, The impression a couple makes to others is usually formed in a large part by the better half of the deal, It's not a level playing field guys, They just have too many advantages, Just start with the dress, Here we have the women in their hot slut-wear, with their faces made up and looking like a vision, Now switch to the guys, We stroll in wearing our Tommy Bahama camp shirt and slacks, That is just not a fair fight, I know this is depressing for my male readers, but it gets steadily worse as you read on, guys.

As if the ladies did not have enough stacked in their favor, they also have the Bi angle of the equation working for them, Since a healthy percentage of the ladies are to some degree bisexual, it can be real deflating to our gentle male egos when that hot little honey looking your way is more interested in your wife than you, It's enough to make a grown man cry.

Allow me to summarize the situation up to this point, The man had to talk his wife into a lifestyle with the ulterior motive of being able to have legal sex with a variety of women, But as it turns out she gets to pick the couples, gets to fulfill her wildest fantasies, gets to dress in sexy clothes she could only have dreamed of wearing and, in many instances, has not just men but also women to play with, Now remember guys, you had to sell her on the idea, Perhaps it's time we all got better agents to handle our negotiations, I'd like to say that's the end of the bad news, but I might as well give it all to you at once, You men, you can take it.

As fate would have it, women are more complicated than men in the selection process, I know that women are more complicated than us is hardly a news flash to my male readers, but when applied to the lifestyle it really hits home, Allow me to elaborate.

The operating instructions of the average male mind can fit on a half of sheet of notebook paper, with room for notes at the bottom, This allows for simplicity in our selection process of what makes for a desirable woman, Pretty face, nice legs, great tits, hot body ... that about covers it; book it, Dano, You get the picture, Now we come to the women.

The schematics of the female brain would take up a whole wing of the Library of Congress, This complexity may make them fascinating to us, but when we are going for the kill, we want simple, But simple you are not going to get, In a group of five women, I doubt if you could get five out of ten to agree among themselves on what constitutes the perfect male, especially as a sex partner, So what we are faced with is a math problem that would stump Einstein, You have to get four people to like each other simultaneously, I know I'm losing some of the male readers right now, so let me put it in terms the male mind can understand, Looks alone typically won't persuade the fairer sex that we are the best deal of the evening, I don't care how handsome of a stud you are, this is not a matter of tapping a woman on the shoulder and saying, "Wanna fuck?" You actually have to have personality, Yeah, you read right ... I said personality; There goes the ballgame, huh?

My wife has often told me that I have to court the ladies more, Get to know them, let them know they are beautiful, that they turn me on...blah, blah, blah, Once I had the temerity to look at her and say, "Why do I have to court them? You don't have to do anything, you just stand there and the men (and the women) are all over you." She just looked at me as if I had uttered the most moronic words of our entire relationship (which I had) and said, "And your point is?" I had no point, I just wanted to whine about how unfair the system is to us poor men, I mean, aren't we the ones who wanted all of this in the first place? Isn't this our fantasy? Wasn't it our great sale that got us into this? How come the women get to make the rules?

The blunt truth is that my wife is a much better deal than me: She's gorgeous, sexy, funny, good at sex and real easy on the eyes.

Now as for me? I am not a bad looking man, Some women even consider me handsome, But even in my delusional world, I would never dream of going one on one in a contest with my hot sexy little wife in attracting the opposite sex, If it came down to a contest of who could pick up more of the opposite sex (or in her case the opposite and the same sex), I will finish a distant second, A good man knows when he is in over his head, Or to steal that famous movie line, "A man has got to know his limitations." I know mine.