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Category: Self Improvement
Description: How To Meet and Influence Women is a survival manual for the hesitant male. In it, you will learn the secrets of successful seduction, as well as detailed analyses of the female psyche and tips on improving your level of desirability to the gentler gender. Women seem to be born with all the finely tuned mechanisms requisite to the manipulation of the opposite sex. Most men, however, need a little help in that department from time to time. If you're in that majority, this book is the answer to your prayers.
eBook Publisher: Whiskey Creek Press, 2011
eBookwise Release Date: October 2011

Available eBook Formats: OEBFF Format (IMP) [119 KB]
Words: 25579
Reading time: 73-102 min.

Introduction

The sexual revolution is over and everybody won. The inhabitants of the later half of the twentieth century have enjoyed the greatest freedom of sexual expression since the invention of marriage. In today's permissive atmosphere, it is not at all unusual, for example, for a teenage girl to explore the joys of premarital sex in her room--with the full knowledge and consent of her parents! And extramarital infidelity is now so common that its exploitation marks a TV situation comedy as outdated. The annual divorce rate in the United States has climbed to half the annual marriage rate, and one in every four single women under the age of forty-five has had a child out of wedlock.

As a sexually active seventy-five year old male, I can tell you that we've come a long way in a relatively short time. When I was in high school in the fifties, it was anathema to use the "f" word in the presence of the opposite sex; nowadays it is a rare high school girl indeed who does not use that word freely in front of boys. When I was courting in the sixties, it was expected that girls retained their virginity until their wedding night; boys today would think there was something physically wrong with a girl in her late teens who had not had premarital experiences. We owe this remarkable progress, along with other advances in the quality of our lives, to technology.

Two of the most liberating gifts that modern science has given us are geographic mobility and the elimination of the fear of unwanted pregnancy. The small town mores that so strictly governed our grandfathers evaporated along with the gasoline smoke that dispatched the small town, and the fear of the scarlet letter disappeared with the appearance of the condom. The freedom that resulted from these innovations has been responsible for the twentieth century's extraordinary economic growth, but it has also contributed to a moral relaxation unprecedented in the history of civilization. In less than a single century, we have erased three thousand years of entrenched righteousness and modesty.

Whatever your moral compunctions regarding this situation may be, one thing is certain: it is not going to go away. We have no more possibility of returning within our lifetimes to the narrow-minded prudery of the nineteenth century than we have of returning to candlelight and horse-drawn carriages. The Victorian theorists were right: once let loose, human sexuality will not again be easily bound. The sexual freedom we enjoy today is here to stay, and what is often referred to by preachers and politicians as "moral degeneration" is actually an ongoing revolution in moral thought. What we are witnessing is not an anomaly but a total rethinking of the roll of sex in society, and even the experts in the field have not agreed on where it's going.

It has been suggested by some psychologists, for example, that humans go through two distinct phases of adult life, each phase requiring its own specific type of mate. Savants and other wishful thinkers, extrapolating from this concept, have predicted that the divorce rate will continue to increase until the family of the future becomes a two-tiered arrangement consisting of mom and stepdad and dad and stepmom.

Actually, of course, in the two traditional prognosticators of American cultural evolution, the upper economic echelons and California, that prediction has already become reality. What is a more probable long-range view of the future, and one that should be evident to those of us who have sons and daughters of marriageable age, is that the divorce rate will decrease--along with the marriage rate--until both marriage and divorce become obsolete. As any single person can tell you, marriage is, if not obsolescent, at least in serious decline.

Many young people today feel that the only thing marriage has to recommend it over casual cohabitation is parental recognition, and many older people, no longer burdened with that incentive, see no reason at all to engage in what society used to consider "proper." Whether you are a recent high school or college graduate, a thirty-something generation-X-er, or a forty-something wedlock dropout, your chances of getting a woman to live with you are far better than your chances of getting her to the altar, and your chances of getting her to bed are better by several orders of magnitude if you don't mention matrimony.

Nor are existing conjugal bonds as sacred as they once were. As the tradition of fidelity has wavered before the bright promise of promiscuity, the ancient walls of matrimony have crumbled under the assault of adultery. While Kinsey found in 1953 that an astounding 26% of married women had had extramarital experiences, by the late 1990's we were being deluged with Cosmopolitan and Playboy polls revealing that "54% of married women fool around," or that "65% of married women under the age of fifty admitted to having had at least one affair," or that "young married women are more likely to stray from the marital bed than are their husbands." (Whatever your reservation about the accuracy of these surveys may be, their proliferation in mass media publications is in itself significant.)

It seems, then, that many married women today are more than willing to indulge in a little activity on the side, so long as the proper precautions are taken and the man is discreet. Many divorcees, moreover, seem to prefer liaisons with married men, whom they consider to be more stable and less likely to be hiding unpleasant surprises in their pasts. (Besides, one doesn't have to worry that a man will start talking about getting married if he already is.)

Whatever this situation may mean for society, what it means for today's man is opportunity. Yet, if we are to believe today's woman, far too few men avail themselves of these opportunities when they are presented. We are like children let loose in a candy store for the first time. We can't really believe that all those goodies are for us. We walk around looking and lusting, with our eyes wide and our pennies clutched tightly to our breasts. The situation has come upon us too quickly, and we lack the confidence and the boldness that comes only from experience. But how do we get experience?

If a man decides to take up golf, he will arrange to take lessons--or at least he will buy one of the many books, online courses or software programs that are available on the subject and acquaint himself with the basics of the game--before he ever sets foot on the course. The same is true of almost any hobby a man might take up, from acupuncture to zymurgy. The average man has learned from painful experience that proper preparation is imperative to the success of any endeavor--with the notable exception of courtship. Most men seem quite content to embark on that particular enterprise with no more preparation than that displayed by the U.S. Pacific Fleet at Pearl Harbor.

A man who wouldn't think of setting out on a fishing trip without at least six rods, eight reels, and two tackle boxes overflowing with jigs and lures will, without hesitation, set about the task of capturing a mate with no more equipment than vague aspirations and a great deal of hope. The majority of men seem to think that getting women is mostly a matter of good looks, money, and luck, and that, having been deprived by birth and inheritance of the first two, their success in that occupation is totally dependent on the last.

Contrary to popular wisdom, however, a man does not have to be handsome or rich--or even smart--in order to have a lot of women, and luck has about as much to do with the attainment of that condition as the price of pork bellies. As in any other sport, "getting lucky" is more often a matter of skill than of luck, and the first skill a man must acquire in order to succeed at courtship is attraction.

The pursuit of the human female is a delicate art. Gone forever are the days when a caveman simply bashed his paramour in the head with a club and dragged her off by her hair. Modern women expect to be courted, and the man who succeeds in courtship is the man who knows how to perform the courtship dance. Like peacocks and sticklebacks, human beings have recognized courting rituals with clearly defined moves and anticipated actions. There are rules and procedures to the game of love, and he who ignores them or is ignorant of them will need a great deal of luck indeed to attract women.

But attraction is only the beginning. A bass may be attracted to a lure, but getting it to bite depends on how well you play the lure. Moreover, once the fish is hooked, whether or not you get it in the boat depends on how well you play the fish. Landing a fish and landing a woman both require a great deal of patience and control, and control is the second skill that must be learned by the aspiring lothario. In any affair of the heart, you--the man--must be in control of yourself and of the situation at all times. This is imperative both from an operational point of view and, perhaps more importantly, because most women expect the man to be in charge.

The third skill you will need in the game of courtship is termination. A man must never, ever start a new affair without having firmly terminated the last affair. This is extremely important--and extremely difficult. The human female is vehemently territorial, and removing yourself from her dominion will demand far more determination and effort on your part than getting accepted to that domain ever entailed.

The attainment of these three skills--attraction, control, and termination--are the hallmark of the successful Casanova, and they can be learned by anyone. Once you have acquired them, you will be able to play women with confidence and grace and style, the way a virtuoso plays his instrument. Now, while some people might contend that comparing a woman to a saxophone is a fine example of male chauvinism, I would urge those people to consider that women have been playing men for untold millennia, and that, so far as modern science has been able to determine, they have never had any qualms whatsoever about pursuing that activity. It might be reasonably argued, therefore, that what we are proposing here is more in the nature of self-defense--or at the least retribution--than of exploitation.

Furthermore, the skills you will learn in this book are designed not to exploit but to enrich the lives of the women with whom you come into contact. You will be shown how to give women what they want, rather than to bother them continually with what you might want. You will also, incidentally, learn that that approach will in most cases get you what you both want and will, almost invariably, enrich both your lives.

Also, the direction in which you apply these skills will depend on your objectives and not on the nature of the skills themselves. What you will learn can be used with equal facility to induce a woman to wed or to entice a woman to bed. It can also be used to play "subliminal seduction," a game that will make your life easier while making the lives of the women around you more rewarding, more satisfying, and more exciting. However you might decide to use these skills, the responsibility for using them is irrevocably yours. Whatever your intention may be, its accomplishment will be made easier by the knowledge contained in this book.