Anger and Anxiety: Be in Charge of Your Emotions and Control Phobias
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by Bob Rich, Ph.D.
Category: Self Improvement
Description: We live in a crazy world, so much so that you'd have to be crazy to stay sane! Most people feel frequently overwhelmed by stress. Some of us have the inner resources and the support of other people, and so can cope reasonably well, most of the time. Others among us are not so lucky. For months or even years at a time, people are suffering, at the end of their tether, buckling under the load. There are many people who react with depression, a life-sapping, draining, self-destructive mood that poisons everything. Others suffer anxiety focused on a variety of issues. And there are those who respond by hitting out at the world, and often at the people they love, the ones they least want to hurt. Of course, most sufferers of one of these reactions frequently feel one or both of the others, in an endless destructive cycle. Fortunately, help is available. This little book summarizes the results of a great deal of scientific investigation, carried out all over the world, and the author's own extensive clinical experience. Dr. Bob Rich is an award-winning writer as well as a psychologist, so you know the book will be readable. You will be inspired to work on your own problems, entertained by the many case examples from Bob's practice, and empowered to use the clearly described techniques.
eBook Publisher: Twilight Times Books, 2000
eBookwise Release Date: January 2005
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Available eBook Formats: OEBFF Format (IMP) [140 KB]
Reading time: 88-123 min.
"I would strongly recommend Anger and Anxiety to anyone who has a history of unexplained anger or overreactions to situations as well as anybody who finds more of their life occupied by worry and fear than they are happy with."--Victor R. Volkman editor of Beyond Trauma: conversations on traumatic incident reduction.
"I warmly recommend Anger and Anxiety to everyone suffering from uncontrolled anger, panic attacks and anxiety. Even those who cope perfectly with their lives can benefit, by enhancing their personal potential and their happiness. Being relaxed and in control is always a good choice, isn't it?"--Christine Spindler author of Faces of Fear.
"The book gave me a lot of food for thought, and after reading it, I feel better equipped to deal with my own anxiety. I'm eager to try out the methods Rich detailed. Anger and Anxiety is reader-friendly and doesn't get bogged down with psychological jargon. I highly recommend it for anyone who is committed to change his or her negative thought patterns and learn how to manage anger or anxiety."--Jenna Glatzer editor-in-chief of Absolute Write.
"As someone who has suffered from anxiety disorder for 19 years I found this book a must read. Dr. Rich's easy to read insights on the mind makes this a book for the lay person as well as the professional. He intertwines his professional knowledge with clear cut examples for change and recovery."--Mary Ellen Popkin author of the Anxiety Disorder Handbook.
How to use this book
I have made every attempt to write the book so it is easy and enjoyable to read, and to keep the concepts in it non-technical. Just the same, the ideas here are based on the combined evidence of many thousands of researchers all around the globe, over many years. The tools I describe have worked for huge numbers of people whose suffering was eased.
Each chapter is set out in an easy-to-navigate way, with explanations and definitions interspersed with case stories to demonstrate the points I am making. At the end of each chapter, you will find a section entitled 'Summing up'. In this section, I have summarized the main points and concepts of the chapter for easy reference. In the section below that, 'Over to you', you will find some exercises for you to go through which will help you to work through the main points of the chapter.
Read the book right through first, to get an idea of its contents. Then pick and choose as if from a cookbook, selecting those parts that are of relevance to your situation at present. Later on, you might want to have a go at other parts.
You see, we humans are incredibly complex and varied. Nothing works for everybody all the time. And nothing works perfectly. A great result for me will be if you get to understand the concepts of this book so well that you end up developing a new set of tools thathelp you in your unique situation. An even better result for me will be if you can adapt and modify these personal tools when they get blunt to make up a new, effective set. And be able to do this again and again, as needed...
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Popular wisdom distinguishes between mind and body. This is false. A person is a single, unified being. Thinking and feeling are done with far more than the brain: they involve the whole body. Likewise, physical action is just as much a brain activity as a muscular one. In this book, I show you how to use this fact in attacking emotional problems.
Not everybody succeeds in overcoming unwanted emotions. The reason is habit.
We couldn't live without habits. They are activity patterns that are so well-practiced that they become automatic. A learner-driver thinks of the sequence of actions needed for doing a hill start as a list of consciously controlled decisions. An experienced driver will spoil the task by thinking this way: the automatic habit works as if it was a single unit. The same is true of playing a musical instrument. Get a competent pianist to think of her finger actions, and s/he will stumble.
We all know that habits are hard to change. And the more automatic and 'overlearned' a habit has become, the harder it is to change it. Habits of thought have been with us for longer, and are used muchmore often, than any habits of action. They are hard to change. Habits of emotion often derive from early childhood, and are the hardest of all to change.
And yet, if your emotions are a burden to you, then that's what you must do: change these habits of thought and feeling. THIS CAN BE DONE, but it is difficult. And the bad habits do come back. Fortunately, if you've got rid of a habit once, you can get rid of it again.
So, don't expect magic solutions. Don't expect a single-step recovery. You will need weeks, maybe months, of hard work, and even then the bad habits will occasionally return to pester you. But you can do it. The evidence is that other people, just like you in many ways, have managed it.
I am one of them.