Practical Ways to Conquer Fear
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by Mark Hamble
Category: Self Improvement/Business
Description: Okay, we've all heard that quote, "The only thing to fear is fear itself." And, it's all well and good to intellectualize that content. But, it's been so over used that it's become more of a cliché than words to live by. It's pretty sad when you think about it. Here we are in the future that so many who've gone before us dreamt about. In less than 100 years we've conquered outer space as well as inner space. We are smarter, healthier and wealthier than any society that has gone before us. But, there it is, but with all of these advancements many of us are paralyzed by fear. Someone once said that fear is merely "False Evidence Appearing Real." Well that works - as long as you aren't the one who is experiencing the fear. Not everyone can be a Tony Robbins. If you are reading this letter, it's a good bet that you suffer from one of the deep seated fears that renders you helpless to forge ahead to try and shove that fear out of your reality. What are some of your fears? Are they: * Fear of failure * Fear of rejection * Fear of loss * Fear of pain * Fear of crowds * Fear of being alone * Fear of being in the spotlight * Fear of being ignored If you recognize yourself in any of those fears, then you are ready for the first step in learning how to overcome them. Not only is it possible to overcome those fears, you can do it without spending a ton of money on counseling! What better way to learn than from someone who has done it! Our author has done just that. He has learned to face his most deep seated fears and overcome each of them. The good news is that you can do it too! "Practical Ways To Conquer Fear" is written in easy to understand language. Remember, Mark has been right where you are now. He will guide you step by step through what it took for him ton overcome those fears and begin to experience success in his life. One of the first things he will teach you is how to analyze your fears. Then he will teach you how to take action and understand how to reap the consequences, good or bad. Once you have accomplished those tasks you will discover how to build your confidence. Most of us who have those paralyzing fears have absolutely no idea of how to build self-confidence because we never had any to begin with! Well, those days are over. Listen, the only way you can truly understand how life-changing this guide can be is to buy it. It's a fraction of the cost you would pay for a shrink. In fact, it's probably not priced high enough for all the life-changing lessons you are going to get. Regardless, don't pass it up because it is so inexpensive. Conquer YOUR FEARS today. It's priceless!
eBook Publisher: MH Publishing, 2008 November 2008
eBookwise Release Date: August 2010
Available eBook Formats: OEBFF Format (IMP) [53 KB]
Reading time: 28-39 min.
You may have grown up with the belief, encouraged by your parents or other people that were close to you, that normal people never feel fear and so, if we do, then we must be weaker, different or somehow not like "normal" people?
That ignores a fundamental concept of human nature:
Fear is a part of life that everybody has to deal with.
It cannot be eliminated but it can be controlled.
The first step is to understand that living with our fears will do us more harm than working our way through them.
I understand from my own life that it probably seems easier to accept the negative parts of your current situation rather than push back against them when you can't be sure that you will succeed. You just don't want to cause more disappointment for yourself.
The problem is that each time we accept what we have because it's the easy thing to do, we make it a little harder than before for us to ever step free from the grip of the negative mindset which binds us.
Every moment that we are thinking about our problems, past hurts and setbacks is time that we could have used creatively.
Sometimes we are tempted to justify our current situation by telling ourselves that we are the victims of circumstances or manipulation by other people.
Some people may have helped push us into our current situation and done things which influenced our negative mindset. They may have actually felt they were helping us.
Will you improve your situation by continuing to think about what they did? That's very unlikely.
What if you, mostly by your own efforts, pushed on despite those early setbacks and made a great life for yourself and your family?
Success is the best revenge!
* We can get used to living in a rut but we'll never achieve our potential for happiness while we remain there.
* Other people and particular circumstances may have helped push us down. It's up to us whether we stay there.
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The Epidemic of Fear.
Fear is not only normal, it is encouraged.
Every day, our media bombard us with 3-D news; death, disaster and destruction. Little else seems to make it onto the front page of our newspapers. And, we know, that there will be more waiting for us when we turn the page.
It seems almost like we are not properly participating in our society if we don't accept our share of stress and worry about the economy, the environment, our health, our children, the future and so much else.
This affects some people to the point where they almost cannot function.
We must decide what we can reasonably do to help alleviate these problems and still accomplish our work and social targets.
Realizing that the people who serve this ever-growing feast of fear to us have their own motivations for doing so may help you to a more balanced view of the situation.
We don't need their help to find fears that can fill out mind every waking moment.
Our own minds can do that.
This is one time where we can learn from the animals which we share the planet with.
Most of them do not have our capacity to do more than one thing at a time or to do something while our mind is focused somewhere else.
Being able to multitask is a wonderful ability, but it can have a downside if used inappropriately. If we aren't focused on what we are doing, we probably aren't doing it as well as we could.
That can be a significant factor if we find it difficult to remember the names of people they are introduced to or other important information.
We simply don't give enough attention to the information we are given.
Fear causes adrenalin to be released to flow through our body, our heart starts to beat faster and our pulse rate increases.
Our pupils enlarge and sweat cools our skin. Our body is prepared for whichever response our brain decides will be best; fight or flight!
But, when we cannot respond effectively to the event which triggered the fear response, stress develops. This may have negative effects on our body.
Repeated episodes like this can be extremely damaging.
Research has indicated that they may encourage the development of conditions that include colds, aches and fatique.
Over time, there can be malfunction ranging from loss of appetite to sexual disorders.
One of the most important things I've read is that our minds can magnify the effect of negative stimuli greatly and it is often how we deal with the possibility of danger or other consequences that causes the outcome more than the event itself.
Putting it simply, fear of someone punching us could, over time, result in more damage than the punch ever could.
We can see from this that the most destructive force that comes from fear is produced when we focus on what might happen!
If we do not take action to prepare ourselves to be able to better handle similar future episodes and we do not feed positive information into our subconscious, then it learns that we are likely to be unable to handle them any better than we have in the past.
Fear is also one of the major causes of procrastination.
Many people have a low level of self-esteem. Their feelings about themselves need frequent reinforcement from achievement and positive input from others.
Failing to achieve success with anything that they attempt, even if it is for the first time or a relatively unimportant matter, is not a set-back in their eyes, it's a disaster.
They will hold off starting anything until they feel conditions are perfect.
That's called F.O.F. - Fear of Failure. They don't want to get into a situation where other people might feel less well toward them because they did not accomplish a 100% successful result. Usually, the people whose opinions they are so concerned about would not give much thought to the result because they are used to minor setbacks in their own lives from time to time.
As time passes days are wasted, they develop more negative feelings about the days they have wasted and their self-esteem sinks even lower.
Start where You Are.
I believe that you have made a positive step toward a better, happier future just by buying this book.
There are a few more you must take but you will know from the information I provide, you will succeed if you take action.
When will you start?
Some people decide it's just too hard to try to change their situation because of their background, their supposed deficiencies or because they believe there are forces ranged against them which are just too powerful.
Other people want to wait until they have paid off their bills, their children are older or they get a raise which they've been promised before but never received.
The best time to start is now. I've made this book an easy read because I don't know the big words so many writers use.
And, I want you to be able to follow the suggestions without having to consult a dictionary or other textbook.
Common responses which people adopt to deal with fear include;
* Drugs, both prescription and over the counter
* Coffee or tea
All of them are additive to varying degrees and may have effects which can introduce more problems without solving anything we are already trying to deal with.
None of these options offer more than minimal, temporary help which is mostly limited to changing the focus our mind's superficial focus to the preparation and consumption of our chosen restorative.
But, any perceived benefit vanishes when we have consumed them and we are back to facing the original problem.
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